One of the many overwhelming aspects of being widowed is the thought of dating again. For me, this required two separate support teams: Team One knows me from way back when I was “normal.” They know my strengths and weaknesses, and are present in my everyday life. Team Two- my widow friends who are walking the same freaky path I am. They are not physically present in my daily life but they are readily available to swap stories about the feelings, fears, joys, and crashes of dating after losing the greatest love of my life. The writer in me cannot help but to write their words down. Here are some of the best tidbits we had to offer each other. Feel free chime in with your own experiences or advice.
Making the choice to get back into the dating world is no small task. If you have managed to win the battle with any guilt issues you may be grappling with, you have already taken one of the most difficult steps.
Here are some thoughts on how others before you have managed to navigate the world you are now venturing into:
Any feelings of panic or new guilt, confusion, or anger are not unusual – especiallyif you find yourself developing feelings for someone.
You may be judged or receive unsolicited advice. Rise above it.
Have fun. Go for it. You deserve it.
Barb Allen Is A Gold Star Wife, Author & National Speaker. She’s a professional veterans advocate who understands the personal and factual struggles of turning adversity into advantage. But this lesson did not come easily and this upper hand must be diligently maintained. Now, Barbara brings her life lessons to her audiences in keynote speeches and custom programs. She relates to her audiences’ lives and challenges, and teaches them how to become gladiators in their own life’s arena.