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On the Purple Heart and the Chatanooga Shooting

Today I saw the story about Marine Sgt DeMonte Cheeley, who was awarded the Purple Heart. Sgt Cheeley was shot in the leg in the course of the shooting at the Chatanooga Armed Forces Career Center, where he and the other soldiers were prohibited from carrying weapons. I remember the day this shooting happened. I […]

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Pentagon To the Rescue

To say I’m glad to see other stories of soldiers whose service and sacrifice has been so blatantly dismissed by the military is a comfort would be inaccurate. And yet, this article in the Army Times confirms my long-standing outcry of betrayal at the hands of the military. It is the same military dunderheads that […]

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Army Times Story on the Purple Heart Controversy

The Army Times posted a story about my family’s continued efforts to secure Lou’s Purple Heart. (Read the story here.) As the widow of someone who was first murdered, and then determined by the military to be unworthy of recognition, it is enormously refreshing that the Army Times, unlike most of the rest of the media, continues to believe in the merit of this effort and Lou’s legacy. I knew this article would bring about both positive and negative responses from the Army Times extensive audience. I didn’t quite expect the level of unabashed animosity in some of the responses, but sticks and stones…

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One More Push for the Purple Heart

For ten years, the military has refused to award my husband Lou Allen the Purple Heart. I have had to watch Lou’s admitted killer walk out of the courtroom with a smug smile, and have had to live with the knowledge he will never be held accountable. I have watched a new Purple Heart museum […]

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U.S. Military Condones Rape and Punishes Heroes?

Betrayal wears many disguises. It can be subtle – a whispered breach of trust- or it can be overt- a public violation of the spoken or unspoken agreement from one to another. It can be an inadvertent slip of the tongue, or it can be the willful, malicious taking of a life. A betrayal’s aftermath […]

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VA Claims in Shredders!

Many of you know I now work full time as a Veterans Specialist for my county It is my job to assist veterans with filing VA claims as well as accessing other resources available. So setting aside the egregiousness of shredding a pending claim I can perhaps ease some fears of those veterans working with […]

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My Widow New Year’s

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No bedazzled ball will drop. No throngs will gather to count it down, and tomorrow is just another work day. None of that will alter the fact that today is my New Year’s. Or at least, that is how I have come to view it. It took me a couple years just to determine which […]

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How to Woo a Widow

We all secretly like to be teased a little. Seduced, even. Allow me to indulge that side of you with the first chapter of my book, How to Woo a Widow. Then get your own copy from Amazon or a signed copy here. Enjoy:) Author’s Note : It takes a village to raise a widow. Did someone […]

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Five Things to Never Say to the Newly Bereaved

      Five Things to Never Say to the Newly Bereaved   We’ve all done it- said something so stupid we regret even as it’s pouring past our treacherous lips. Maybe we congratulate someone on being pregnant  –  when they’re not. Asked about a co-worker’s job hunt we’re not supposed to know about. Spilled […]

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Memorial Day

“Tell my wife and children I love them.” Those are the last words my husband spoke to the medic caring for him before he lost consciousness. I know this because that medic took the time and summoned the strength to write and tell me so. I recently found the letter I’d read quickly a couple […]

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